14 August 2014
Life is always switching things up on you
08 April 2014
Morning blues
09 December 2013
Snow and ice
12 November 2013
Wow is it cold, mixed with a lot of stress
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Tell me some good news in your life so I can stop focusing on the stresses in mine!!
08 October 2013
Anniversaries and Stress
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What is stressing you out these days?
How often do you move?
Do you celebrate baptism or christening anniversaries?
30 May 2013
Sick Little Boy
It has been a week of sickness in this house. Last weekend Evan was just not himself. He was super clingy, wouldn’t sleep in his crib, wouldn’t nap, and didn’t want to be put down. This made life quite difficult – especially bedtime. I had a very tired little boy. And because he didn’t want to sleep in his crib at all and was waking up all night with a fever, I didn’t sleep much either.
What? Me? Cause problems? Never!
By Monday night he seemed to be back to normal, minus a severely runny noise. I got him to go down pretty easily and he was fine at my sister’s on Tuesday. Then he started coughing – one of those wet, congested coughs. And he coughed all night long – little coughs that wracked his tiny little body. So I stayed home with him today, took him to the doctor, and am trying to nurse him back to health by giving him lots of steam baths.
The doctor checked him out and ruled out an ear infection (the fever + him pulling on his ears made me think maybe an ear infection or teething – neither it seems). She gave him some meds to put in a nebulizer if he starts coughing at my sister’s house (however, he’s not going back there until Monday…hopefully he’s better by then).
What are you talking about? I’m the cutest thing around town!
Sick babies cause lots of stress. And not just stress because it’s horrible to have a sick baby, but the stress of trying to balance work and family.
Yes, the dreaded work-life balance. A stressful balance here in the United States of America.
I work for a great organization that recognizes that family is very important. That’s definitely made my life so much easier. I can work from home a couple days a week, I can adjust my schedule as needed, I can take Evan on my work trips (although someone always comes with me to watch him). However, it is still hard. All night long Evan was coughing and coughing and coughing and I kept thinking: do I work or do I stay home? Do I stay home and take Evan to the doctor? Do I go to work and hope he’s ok? Is he well enough to go to daycare? Can I take him to the doctor on Friday (when I work from home)? I already had Monday off and I worked from home on Wednesday – if I don’t go to work today then I will have only gone one day this week. What’s the right choice in this situation?
It’s always better to stay home and play with me!
Yes – all this was running through my head at 2am. I don’t want to be a slacker at work and I don’t want to be a mom that works when she should stay home with her sick baby. That balance is SO HARD. And honestly, I never really imagined these types of things when I was growing up. I guess in my head I thought maybe I’d stay home with my kids, like my mom did. Then I wouldn’t have had to make choices like this on a daily basis. But I went to college and grad school and Peace Corps and I love my job and I love working. And there is NO WAY we can afford for me to stay home and take care of the little one.
But on days like these – I kind of wish I could. When there is no relief from the guilt – guilt for not going to work or guilt for sending my baby to daycare when he’s sick. Either way, there is guilt.
Look at me – I can move around now! I make life more challenging!
I guess I’ll just have to get used to that guilt because I have a feeling I’ll be struggling with these issues of work vs. family for a long time. Unless I win the lottery. Which means I should probably buy a ticket because although the lottery is pretty impossible to win – it’s even more impossible to win if you don’t have a ticket.
And another thought – why is it so much easier for me to take off work than for my husband??? It is so much harder for him to ask for off, so I usually end up taking the day off unless I’ve taken a bunch of time off already.
Such is life. And no matter what – this little angel always comes first!
I’m a little angel and I like to smother you with kisses and hugs!
30 August 2012
Bump Shot: Week 38
And another week has passed us by. They sure do go by fast. I am still a bit in shock that I'm 38 weeks pregnant, and actually almost 39 (since the Bump Shots always get posted a bit late). It seems like yesterday I was just 8 weeks pregnant feeling like I had so long to go. I know, I know, I could still have over three weeks to go. But still - it's coming up fast.
I feel like I should be a pregnancy pro these days (I mean, I have 38 weeks of experience!), but things just keep changing every week. I was reading Baby Kerf and she was talking about new pregnancy symptoms that were cropping up and I could relate almost to the T.
** I am experience some serious hot flashes. It is the weirdest thing because I am NEVER hot. I am always the cold one. I always cover up at night, I can wear pants when it's 100* outside, I am freezing in my office when everyone else is complaining of the heat. I now know what they are going through. I also know what menopausal women are going through too! I'll be sitting at my desk and all of a sudden I'll feel my body temperature slowly rising. And rising. And rising. Until I'm really hot and a little sweaty. I don't actually have sweat running down my face, but I probably have a few beads sitting on my forehead. It lasts for a while and then goes away. STRANGE!
Ok, I thought I had some more new pregnancy symptoms but I can't think of anything else. I am still sleeping GREAT (except when hubs wakes up and wants to have long conversations at 3am or Dolce the Dog has nightmares and starts barking/howling/crying in the middle of the night and I have to go over and wake him up).
** My biggest fear these days is that my water will break without me knowing it and hubs and I will have sex and infect the baby (sorry about the sex mention - probably TMI but how do you think I got pregnant...). It's probably a crazy fear, but something I think about. But so many people tell me that your sex drive disappears after you give birth and you don't want to think about sex for weeks and weeks - so I feel like if I'm up for it now, we should keep on doing it. Ok - enough sex talk!
** I'm also a tad bit nervous that I was really stressed and anxious this entire pregnancy and I've somehow damaged Maple Baby emotionally. I read somewhere that women who are pregnant in war zones have a higher tendency to give birth to children that later develop schizophrenia. And schizophrenia is more common in boys to begin with... Ok, so I don't live in a war zone but I've been stressed for a lot of the pregnancy. And not just superficial stress - I've had numerous occassions where I'm so anxious and stressed that I get that pit in my stomach and my heart races. That can't be too good for the baby. I really hope that when I wasn't stressed I was super happy and that those emotions transferred stronger than my stress hormones. I hate to think I already screwed up his little life....
** I only have one more work day left at the office. I can't believe I'm going to be gone for an entire month. There are so many transitions happening at work that I'm a bit nervous about what will be going on when I get back. I still have a week of working from home, but it will be so weird not being at the office every day. And not commuting. I'm excited to get some time off and to be able to be home with the baby, but I think I will miss work and my project. So many exciting things are going on and I had to pass them on to other people. However, I'm sure I'll cry the day I have to bring Maple Baby to daycare and return to work!
** By far the hardest thing this pregnancy has been drinking enough water. Isn't that crazy! I thought the hardest thing might be back pain or sleeping or heartburn or any other symptom. But no, I didn't have any of those symptoms. The most difficult thing for me has been trying to get enough liquid in my body. Yesterday I had a cup of coffee in the morning (decaf) and then it was 3:30pm and I realized I hadn't had a single other thing to drink. All day. Whoops. So I guzzled 16oz of water before going home and then brought a bottle of coconut water to Chemistry. However, the midwives told me I needed to drink 2L of water a day and I am completely falling short. I hope I don't give birth to a camel...
** And lastly, as stated above, I had coffee yesterday! My love of coffee is returning!! Woo hoo!!! I loved coffee with a passion. Last year while I was training for the marathon I switched to decaf because I thought it would help reduce inflammation in my legs, but I still drank it every morning. Then I went to Guatemala in January and suffered some serious morning sickness and my love of coffee went down the drain. I didn't want a single cup. Ever. I think during this entire pregnancy I had coffee a total of five times. I just didn't have any desire for it. If I needed a small pick-me-up I drank a cup of green tea. However, this past week I made some coffee and realized I now love it again. Yum, yum. Ahh, the simple pleasures.
06 August 2012
Husband prepares for baby
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Slightly unclear photo... |
My husband is so excited about Maple Baby. There is no doubt about it. He is over-the-moon. He can't wait to meet Maple Baby. At times I think maybe he is more excited than I am (don't worry Maple Baby, I am super excited too). I am excited but I'm also worried about things - like finances, childcare, commuting long hours to and from work, exhaustion, postpartum depression, etc. Hubs is not concerned about these things. His philosophy is that everything will work out. While this can be a great philosophy, it can be annoying at times too. Because I am left with all the worrying to do. These things are not keeping me up at night or anything, but it's stuff I think about.
However, I can't deny that hubs is excited. He talks to the baby all the time - he even says good morning, good night, hello, and good bye. All the time. And he calls me at work at least twice a day to ask if the baby is moving. He sings the baby songs and gives my belly high-fives. It's quite adorable actually. I am anxious to see how he is once the baby is actually born and cries and poops all the time though!
And because of our Bradley Method class, he has taken it upon himself to inform me of all the things I need to do. Hmm, not so cute all the time. Especially if it's something that I should do and just don't feel like it.
Like what, you say?
How about packing my hospital bag. Yup, still haven't done that even though it's recommended to do that at like week 31. And I'm on week 35 (and I promise a bump shot is coming). Yes, I realize I could go into labor any day and I have no bag packed, but I kinda think Maple Baby won't come until I pack my bag. That's logical, isn't it? So, hubs reminds me at least once a day that I need to pack my hospital bag. Yup, fun stuff.
He also likes to remind me that I need to eat. Although I eat a big lunch, I am not super hungry at dinner time. The midwife said it's normal and not to worry about it, but hubs likes to remind me that I need lots of protein. And that I should eat a huge dinner. It's sweet that he's concerned, but it can annoy me to pieces too.
Washing the baby clothes. I mentioned last week that I had a baby shower (if anyone ever sends me pictures, I'll post them) and we got a ton of great gifts, including lots of clothes. This was awesome because we hadn't bought any clothes. We had one or two onesies and then my amazing aunt bought me a bunch, but that was it. So it was nice getting a bunch of clothes. However, husby really wanted me to wash the clothes. Like right away. I didn't really feel like washing clothes after work so I kept telling him that we had to cut all the tags off first.
So, one day after dinner, he did:
Yup, he dragged all the clothes out into the living room and starting cutting all the tags off. He then proceeded to hold the baby clothes like they were babies. When I asked what he was doing he said that I got to "hold" the baby all the time but he never did, so he wanted to pretend that his baby was inside the baby clothes. It was actually quite adorable.
This is what I did while he cut all the tags off:
19 July 2012
Birth Class Drop-outs
So, work and being tired seem to be to blame. We really had plans to go today but it just didn't happen. I had a semi-breakdown this afternoon and then we had to drive 45 minutes for my pre-natal visit and then an hour in the opposite direction to pick up our dog from his grooming appointment and then would have had to drive 30 minutes in another direction to get to class. I didn't feel like it. Plus, by the time we got home from picking up the dog, walking him, and grabbing a bite to eat it was almost 7pm - and that's what time class starts. But we were 30 minutes away. I feel badly - especially since we spent $300 on the classes and then have missed half. I'm hoping she lets us make some of them up or at least borrow some of the videos to watch at home. The information is interesting but by the end of the week, by 7pm, I'm pretty exhausted.
Today should have been nice and relaxing because I took a sick day. I usually work from home when I have a doctor's appointment but I decided to just take the entire day as a sick day instead. I thought I'd have some time to relax and catch up on life before my appointment, but it didn't work out that way. Hence the mini-breakdown. And by mini, I mean mini. I don't actually have real breakdowns so really all that happened was that I wanted to cry. A meltdown usually means that I actually cry. That's pretty much it.
So what instigated my mini-breakdown? Well, I got up and drove hubs to work and then came home. I checked my work email (I had some press statements that I was waiting to get back and wanted to send out today - so wanted to make sure I checked my email a few times). No one had emailed me since it was only 6:30am so I decided to take a nap. I fell asleep until 9:15! I then got up and flew into the shower and then rushed to get Dolce to his grooming appointment by 10am. We were only a few minutes late (ok, more like ten).
After dropping him off I headed to PetSmart because I wanted to pick up a cover for our car seats to protect them from Dolce's massive amount of hair. It's kind of embarrassing when we have someone in our car and they emerge looking like they just rolled around in a cotton bin! I also picked up a few toys because Dolce didn't have any toys and I wanted him to have a few things to play with. Next stop was Target because I was hoping to pick up a few things for the house. I mainly wanted something to put our shoes on but ended up eliminating that from my list and instead buying a shower caddy to put my shampoo on, a new 10" frying pan (mine has a bunch of scratches on it and I worry about cancer), a mitten that gets dog hair off fabric, and a stud finder (as in studs found in houses, not good-looking men!).
I started getting pretty stressed because everything was adding up and we are trying to save money and I keep "throwing" it all away. Moving and dogs are really expensive!
When I got home I got sucked into work and did that for a while - until hubs called me to ask if I had gotten my emissions test done.
Whoops! That was the other thing to do on my list and it had TOTALLY slipped my mind. I had already asked for an extension so I don't have much more time. So I looked for the emissions slip but couldn't find it. I still haven't had time to fully unpack the house and so many things are still "lost". I guess that's one of the things. Apparently you can get your emissions test with your car registration though, so I figured that was good enough. However, when I got to my car and decided to look for the registration, all I found was an old registration that expired in 2011.
Ahhh!
That won't work and my new registration had come in October so I had NO IDEA where it might be. So much for being organized. Somehow I had managed to get my registration stickers on my license plate but had completely misplaced my actual registration card.
No emissions test today then.
I did go online and order a new registration for my car though. And since it wouldn't come for a few weeks I figured I should print the temporary registration they give you - just in case hubs or I get stopped. Well, I had never used the old printer my dad had given me last year so I pulled it out and tried to set it up. After about an hour of setting it up and finding all the cords and printing the documents - it became apparent that it was out of ink and you couldn't make any of the registration information out.
So, I gave up and decided that I wasn't going to do the emissions test and I would just print the emissions out at work.
But by now it was time for me to pick up hubs and head to our appointment.
So I got none of the things I wanted to get done, done. Like wash our towels, put away our clean clothes from last week, wash the dishes, unpack, hang-up pictures, and RELAX. Hence, the mini-meltdown and not going to class.
There is just too much to do!
And I started to hyperventilate when the receptionist was making my next few appointments and she was saying things like 36 week and 39 weeks and things like that. I am running out to do things before Maple Baby comes!!!!
Hubs made me happy though when he decided to skip his golf league so he could go with me to my pre-natal visit. I didn't even make it seem like he should come - I told him that I was totally fine going alone. However, he said he really wanted to go with me so we went together. I thought that was sweet.
And then I got a package in the mail from my lovely aunt with a bunch of onesies for Maple Baby! She said that it was sad I only had one onesie and I was almost 8 months pregnant - so she sent a bunch. And they were soooooooo cute!
And hubs said maybe we can play Yahtzee tonight. And playing games always puts me in a good mood. I'm trying to relax a bit because I keep reading about how stress really affects the baby and I don't want to give my baby ulcers. And poor Maple Baby already had to live through A&P II with me and experience all that stress, and the stress from moving, and the stress from my trip to Vegas, and the stress of having so many things to buy and no money. Ugg, poor Maple Baby.
Are you happy tomorrow is Friday???